Safe Adult Club

Welcome to the Safe Adult Club!

Every child needs adults in their life they can talk to if they have been hurt or are concerned about their safety. They need adults they can trust to help keep them safe. And their safe adults need to know how to help if a child ever comes to them to report they have been harmed. Read on to learn how you can be a Safe Adult and find additional resources.

Consider these facts:

The concept of Safe Adults is taught to students as part of the MBF Child Safety Matters® and MBF Teen Safety Matters® programs. This same concept can be taught to all children by parents or other concerned adults using the information below.

Who is a Safe Adult?

A Safe Adult is someone a child can go to if they ever feel unsafe, have ever been hurt, or if they’re not sure if a situation is unsafe. Safe adults should be someone who:

Children should also be taught that if they have a Safe Adult now, and sometime in the future that Safe Adult doesn’t make them feel safe, they can always choose another Safe Adult.

How many Safe Adults should a child identify?

We encourage children to identify at least two Safe Adults; one who lives in their home, and one who lives outside their home, although they can identify more. It is important to identify one in the home and one out of the home in case abuse occurs in the home, or the Safe Adult in the home is not available when the child needs to talk.

What should children talk about with their Safe Adults?

Children should be encouraged to talk with their Safe Adults any time they feel unsafe, or any time they aren’t sure if a situation is safe. They would want to talk to them:

What is the role of a Safe Adult?
A Safe Adult needs to understand that if a child tells them they have been hurt, or if they suspect a child is being hurt or is unsafe, they need to act in the best interest of the child. It is an adult’s responsibility to protect children. They can help by:

To learn more about responding to a disclosure of child abuse or bullying, parents and Safe Adults can visit our resources page for more help.

What if a Safe Adult is not helpful?

Children need to keep telling Safe Adults that they do not feel safe or have been hurt until someone LISTENS and DOES something to help them. This is another reason we encourage children to have multiple Safe Adults.

Keep in mind that children might find it hard to talk to a Safe Adult. Embarrassment, shame, fear that they will get in trouble or get someone else in trouble, fear that they won’t be believed, or fear of breaking a promise could all make it tough. Because of this, we also teach children to identify a Safety Buddy or Safety Friend, because sometimes it’s easier to talk to a Safe Adult if a child has someone else with them. A Safety Buddy or Safety Friend is a good friend who is trusted and easy to talk to, who will go with the child to talk to a Safe Adult.

What can Parents and other concerned adults do?

Learn more:

 

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Additional resources

Explore these additional resources for more information about protecting children. Also visit our Resources and #KindVibes pages.

Safety Brief: The 5 Safety Rules

Safety Brief: Discussing Sensitive Topics

Safety Brief: Identifying & Reporting Bullying

Safety Brief: Identifying & Reporting Abuse

Safety Brief: Digital Safety

Digital Safety Contract